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Just the other day I was watching ‘Seinfeld’ on Star World, ya ya I still haven’t got over the re-runs. The show is absolutely amazing, now not only comic wise but also its valuable content. I mean seriously Jerry along with his gang has passed on so much of meaningful thoughts and views about life, something that Oprah can never even dream off.

Now in the episode that I was watching the other day, Jerry and George were discussing Jerry’s break-up with Elaine. George was not happy with the whole situation and was disturbed with the fact that because of the break-up he wouldn’t be able to interact with Elaine anymore. Now this bit got Jerry all confused up, after all it was he who broke up with Elaine so how does it affect George’s relationship with her.

Our (ever-so) wise man George explained Jerry that since he and him were best friends and now that Jerry won’t be talking with Elaine anymore, so by default even George is also not allowed to interact with the concerned lady. He called this default act, ‘Break-up by association’.

George’s concept of ‘Break-up by association’ had me thinking practically the entire night. He made me re-play all the episodes in my life where I had to cut contacts with friends whom I liked, but were hated by friends who were actually responsible for our initial introduction. On the other hand there were times when I had to be cordial with people whom I couldn’t even stand, just for the sake of friend/family who apparently were fond of them.

I am sure many of us indulge in such associations, for example bearing with in-laws for the sake of hubby/wifey, then you have to accommodate your close-friend’s annoying girlfriend/boyfriend, break-up with the cute neighbor cause daddy don’t talk to them anymore.

I know, some might call it Relationship Politics and some-would advise you to be open about your true feelings and the crap like that but frankly sometimes these advises are just for the sake of sound-waves. It’s not always easy to be open about such situations with your loved one, especially when you are aware how much the person (you can’t stand) means to the one you care for.

The whole concept of ‘Break-up/Bear-up by association’ might sound amusing but can be rather complex and mind-taxing for people who go thru it often. But I guess this is just another shady aspect of human relationships, which many of us can’t do without and at the end of it makes life a worth-while experience.

What do you have to say?